There are a lot of people out there who look around and say "why do good things always happen for that person, and not for me?"

Instead of looking at what the successful person is doing, and emulating it (or --gasp!-- evaluating themselves to see what could be holding them back), these people are the ones who sit back and insist that they are a victim of their circumstances. They are The World's Victims. Victims of all those other people who fail to realize the Victim's potential. Victims of the successful people who are "out to get them" or "making them look bad."

These are the folks that think that, in order for their own light to shine, everyone else's has to be dimmer or unlit. Other people shining threatens them and causes them to draw back in fear and confusion. They gather their weaker subordinates close at hand to feel stronger in solidarity, but fail to see that by maintaining and nurturing close associations with less successful people, they are denying themselves opportunities to learn and grow.

If you ask them directly, call them out and ask why they don't emulate the successful person and try to align with them to learn ideas on things that have enabled the success (which most successful people are happy to share), the victims will look down their noses and say "well, I wouldn't want to be like that person," and go on to find or create problems they have with the successful person. Or, they will respond "well, what that person is doing obviously won't work for me because of X, Y and Z external factors that are clearly beyond my control." And all the while they will congregate together, negativity breeding negativity, gathering to whisper "oh! poor us!" and "isn't it terrible."

What these people (the Victims) fail to recognize, is that when they say "I wouldn't want to be like that person," what they are actually saying is:
"I am choosing not to be successful, because I elect not to change my behaviors to try to emulate those who have been successful"

And when they say "what that person is doing won't work for me because of X, Y and Z," what they are actually saying is:
"It is easier for me to convince myself and others that I have no control or contribution to my own success than it would be for me to take ownership and identify and make the changes that will work for me in order to become more successful."

Now, I understand, you may not like or respect everyone who is successful. That's fine! It is OK for us all to have personal differences, we are human. So here's my challenge: pick one. Select one successful person, ask them how they became successful and then actually try to change yourself or your behaviors, so that you are emulating a successful person. Instead of whining negatively about how you are a victim, you, yourself, take ownership of the situation and step forward and take a positive, proactive action. This is what separates the lions from the lambs, the successful from the unsuccessful. Own your situation. Change it. Stop originating from negative space and start originating from positive space. No one is holding you back but yourselves.

I can't abide a victim. Nobody here is a victim, except being a victim of your own poor choices.

Success is hard work. I've only attained a very small amount of it myself, but I am constantly working and learning and changing, to try to achieve more. And at the end of the day, when I look around and ask why I am not the most successful person I know, I recognize it is only my own lack of effort and my own personal shortcomings that I have to work to overcome.

But I believe that it's not too late for all of us to change! We can all grow. I have hope that we will all become successful!

And if you perceive me to be successful at something that you are not, then come on! Ask me - align with me! Let go of drama, victimhood and negativity, and present control, positivism and effort, and I will seek you out and align with you, if you let me. I don't have to put your light out in order for my light to shine. Your light cannot detract from mine, and vice versa.

So again, there are choices: get on board, or understand and come to peace with your own decisions and get over it.